This is by far the best way to protect your abundance money mindset from negative people, friends, and family members.
You just attended a money mindset webinar, read a book about it, or watched a youtube video about making more money and manifesting.
And there you are, feeling optimistic and good about life. You’re doing all the suggested abundance affirmations: you’ve made a vision board.
You’re upgrading your income or slowly manifesting money, and things seem to be progressing well.
Then someone makes a sarcastic or spiteful remark, usually a trusted family member, friend, or partner.
Your bubble bursts and you come crashing down.
And although you may brush it off in the moment and move on with your life, that comment has just activated a whole new level of self-sabotage within you.
Before you even know what hit you, you begin skipping your daily affirmations; you get too busy to create the business plan, you put off tracking your expenses.
You get too busy to look at your vision board, and off you go from the path of abundance back to the comfort of your old routine.
Sound familiar?
If so, you’re not alone. It happens to everyone.
In fact, I have never met anyone with 100% cheerleaders on their journey to success in their circle of family and friends.
The bad news is this isn’t just a one-and-done thing. You’re going to find that during your money journey, this will come up again and again.
Let’s learn how to deal with it.
How to deal with a negative partner, friend, or family member
It took two years to change my money mindset and keep it that way.
For a long time, my pattern looked like this:
I would get tired of being broke and research how to change it. Then I would do everything to change it, affirmations, scribing, forgiveness work, etc.
And sure enough, money would begin showing up in my life.
Then I would get excited and become really focused. Out of nowhere, friends would get upset with me, and If I shared what I was doing with them, they would make sarcastic remarks or share their skepticism.
And I would start doubting myself.
Do you recognize any of these?
Maybe your best friend said, “Oh, you charge that much?” “Oh, but everyone is doing that sort of business these days.”
Or your mum asked, “Oh, are you really qualified to do that?”
Or your uncle Tom came up with a gem, “Oh, I remember when you pooed your pants at the Christmas party, and now look at you. How do you think you can make money doing this?”
All of this can feel so challenging.
I don’t want any of this negative talk to derail you or become an excuse for you to stall.
So… Here Are My Tips for Keeping Your Money Mindset Positive
#1. Surround yourself with people who can celebrate and hold your success.
It wasn’t until I started interacting with people who had a positive money mindset that my income started to really improve.
It really helps to get validation from appropriate sources, especially when you’re just starting out.
Choose a supportive coach, and ensure you have peers at the same level, so your success does not trigger them.
Gather a cheerleader community around you. Even if it means upgrading the people around you.
Jim Rohn famously stated that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
So, your income is the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to get rid of your friends, nor does it mean worshiping the ground wealthy people walk on.
However, it does mean that it will be easier for you to remain optimistic when it comes to business and money if you are surrounded by people who are in the game with you.
Okay, so you now know what to do to make it easier to remain optimistic about your money mindset.
But what if a family member or friend goes out of their way to be a dick to you? What do you then?
Firstly, it’s your responsibility to protect yourself, especially if you are at a stage of business where you’re feeling vulnerable.
At the start of your business, you’re like a newborn baby. No bad stuff has happened yet. You’re innocent and pure, and you might feel really vulnerable.
Be careful who you talk to about your fledgling business idea and if someone goes out of their way to be a dick when you share your money goals, simply stop sharing that aspect of your life with them.
Other times you might feel really vulnerable just before you publish your book, apply for a new job, do a big product launch or uplevel your business in any way.
In such times, work on your money mindset to crowd out those negative voices and feel into any feelings of fear or anxiety that may come up.
# 2. Try the Bean Dipping Response
The “Bean Dip Response” is best used when you do not wish to defend or engage with a person over your choices. Especially money-related choices.
It’s really fun for deflecting awkward conversations.
For example, if asked, “how much is your business making?” Answer: Great! Thanks for asking! Want some bean dip?
“When do you plan to get a real job” Answer: “When I’m ready. Thanks! Want some bean dip?”
It does not have to be a literal bean dip; just think of it as a metaphor. So if you don’t have access to bean dip at that exact moment, you can interchange that with any snack available.
You can also try, “Where are you going on holiday?” “Oh, what a funny question. How are your kids doing?”
This always works because people love talking about themselves, so you can always deflect it back.
It’ll get easier over time.
Remember that although it can feel lonely and overwhelming to maintain a positive money mindset when surrounded by negative people, you can do it.
Do your best to hang in there until you see the results.
And remember, it is safe for you to make money, even when you’re surrounded by negative people.
How have you handled negative people in the past? Would love to hear your thoughts in the comment section.
xo.
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